Since I have been back into dating and have not drank for 8 years, it seems that most women do not want to date a man that does not drink. I see a lot of the profiles that say for drinking preference:
but then they will say no Druggies or Drunks. Why is it such a big deal to not drink? You must drink to date them but not be a drunk. I am confused
I went out on a date this past weekend and everything was going great until she suggested we go to her local hangout and have a drink. I am okay with going to bars but it seemed to change the mood as soon as I ordered a coke and told her that I don?t drink. I was pretty sure she would not answer my calls again and I was right. She has not taken any of my calls.
Should I start drinking again so I can date or should I just accept being single for the rest of my life?
brother don,t start drink,n for a woman ,, man thats your soberity my bro,I,m in the same boat friend, if they don't get,it then see-ya, real men face there issues and take control ,,we did that bro,,dont fall down my friend
After seeing what a drunk dose to a family, I personally dont drink and drive. But if I have some one driving then yes ill have 1 or 2, but getting sloppy drunk (Vomiting) is not a fun time for me. But contantly driving someone else always hammered is not fun either.
Hello and just so you know. I really appreciate someone who has moved on in their life from needing mood altering chemicals to be content. My take on this, is be yourself. You don't need somone who is that shallow. KJS-Montana
I don't mind the person who will have a drink with dinner. I just prefer not to drink. Even on the poker runs I take off and get through them early to miss the ones who think they can't finish one without a couple of drinks at each stop.
hi well i dont drink, havnt drank for a long time. i dont care what people say, i been there done it...im lookin for a guy who dont drink, & preferably dont smoke. needle in a hay stak. anyway, just wanted to let you know, no there is nothing wrong with not drinking. its to be honored.
I have heard it bothers some people to date a sober person. I never understood that! I love hanging out with my sober buddies...Why shouldn't they enjoy live music, the bustle of locals, and, when things are really awesome at the venue, dancing...That stuff is not for "drinkers only" Maybe you ought to be the one to initiate the drinking by saying, "Hey, ya want to go out clubbin' this weekend? I'll be the designated driver...We can even take the bike if you want. I'm sober, so it won't be a problem." Maybe you are the one starting the awkwardness when you introduce your sobriety, because the uncomfortable air is projected by you, since you expect rejection and a negative reaction, so that is how your posturing and voice reflect it. Never met you..... just a possibilty. I know I have encountered that in the past...If I was anyone other than me, I might not think to say, "Awesome!!! Now I have a 'desi'!!! When do ya wanna go out?!"
Be creative, one could ride wineries two-up, and there would be the closeness, wind, and confidence that the man holding the handle bars was not intoxicated. (You don't do other drugs do you?) Go to a costume party, New Years party, or football game. Drinks are safe when only one is drinking...and it's bound to be fun. That is, "fun" if you are truly relaxed, comfortable, and not a frowning "drink counter".....If you don't make people feel uncomfortable, they won't be! If anyone asks, just make light and say, "I'm allergic to alcohol...I break out in handcuffs!".
Sorry to be so long winded...but I've only felt uncomfortable drinking around a sober friend if they have an unrelaxed tenseness...in that case, they are not comfortable enough with their sobriety to feel comfortable watching someone else drink. Not without seeing something they don't want to see. In that case, if someone wants to date someone they can go "party" with...the tense one would not be first, or tenth pick. So be honest with yourself when you replay the "hidden video" in your mind...Critique your approach, posture, voice, and level of relaxation, your ability to segue into engaging conversation, without an awkward stall in the none drinking department...or a rapid, weird scurry. Hold up a mental score card as you replay it to yourself. How would you as viewer have felt about the "scene". (Mental olympics, if you will.)
Anyway, I hope that helps.
There are lots of folks..both men and women...who either don't drink at all or that it doesn't matter one way or the other to them. I like a beer or glass of wine but if I am with someone who doesn't drink at all it sure isn't an issue not too. Isn't that actually one of the small things in life? Good luck and don't give up just because you found out early where it really was at.
FLBiker714 write: Dude...chill. If you don't drink...don't drink. It leaves more for the rest of us. Find a woman who doesn't drink...they're out there. Nothing says you have to drink to date. Swallow yes...but not drink. LOL
Thanks for the comment but finding a woman that does not drink or prefers somebody that does not drink is like looking for a needle in a hay stack. I guess I will just keep on searching!