JUST WONDERED IF GUYS ALWAYS HAVE TO HAVE A SPARE CHICK JUST IN CASE THINGS DON;T WORK OUT WITH THE ONE THEY ARE WITH AT THE MOMENT,I HATE SHARING MY CANDY WITH OTHERS

It's not like having an extra set of spark plugs in the top drawer, you know.

I agree with ya. What's the point in havin any "commited" encounter if you're not planning to stop there and work on what you made a choice for. I've seen the "always lookin for somethin better" in both guys and gals. No wonder so many of these short lived relationships don't work out. I think, if what you found isn't worth "all" your effort and focused attention, then don't rip the other person off like that. Go and be the free loving, uncommited person you are. There may be a day, if you ever meet a person you feel worthy, you might be able to really commit.

Yup I agree, and if you don't think it's gonna work there must be some signals being sent out. Of course there are those men and women who HAVE to have someone all the time and yes I do believe both sexes are capable of trying to pull the wool over the others eyes. It's called insecurity, plain and simple. Maybe because they don't feel confident enough in themselves to make it work or vice versa. So they kinda hang in there as long as it lasts, if something happens they roll on to the other. Isn't that freaked up though?

my question to you then is do women? I for one don't if things don't work out so be it I'll find someone eventually but to keep someone just in case is just like saying this ain't gonna work.

I don't know about the guys but seems the chicks usually have a spare man around. At least that has been my experience.

Well, if your gonna have spares, no sense in having just one. But I don't think it is limited to just men. Seems to be a lot of ladies who have spares too! Always looking for the best lilly pad to rest on.

I know a few "chicks" who play this game, also. I personally think it shows lack of maturity, self respect and assurance.