"The secret glue that keeps relationships alive is..."
No matter how h o t and steamy a relationship is at first when the passion fades there better be something else to take its place.
Most of us fall in lust before we fall in love. It's a wonderfully exciting time when you need nothing more than passion to keep you glued together. Unfortunately, the reality is, lust alone doesn't make for long-lasting bonds; it disintegrates far too fast and easily.
The sort of glue that keeps relationships strong forever is made of more powerful stuff. It's made of mutual respect, interests in common, shared values and genuine friendship.
In fact, this glue is so effective, it's been known to keep the passion strong inside the relationship, even when the lust has gone!
Good question! Something tells me you know but we've forgotten (or haven't had it in a longtime:) I think it was something we used to be able to experience when intimately with another person of value. Great books, peotry and songs used to be written about it. But now its cheaper,faster, and more productive to crank out base emotion and body flailing. What is flailing you ask? Oh no what is rapture you asked. It is ecstacy. And ecstasy is now considered a drug:)
The "trinity" that I was speaking of, "I, me, myself" is what I consider to be the over-inflated ego which many times ruins or destroys all kinds of relationships. A romantic relationship is by no means being excluded from that. If you mean two people as one (and you may not mean that at all) I can't subscribe to that. To me two people are just that, two people who come together with sometimes very different pasts where there is a blending that takes place with sometimes work, understanding and patience, but no "universal oneness" of souls intertwining. Someone once told me to value, accept and honor my partners past. Not try to change, ignore or dishonor it. The Lust vs Passion may be a case of, "You say potato and I say potatto". I decided to look the two words up (too much time on my hands:). My dictionary says, "Passion; any kind of feeling or emotion as anger, love, desire, etc., a compelling force, strong amorous feeling or desire, an instance or experience of it, example: passionate outburst, passionate tears, passionate anger, etc. Lust: overmastering desire, sensual desire, strong pleasure or delight, to feel an intense desire.
My guess is that most people are more comfortable with the word "passion" because it sounds more romantic and as if it comes from the heart. And of course we all also have that lovely vision of ole Jimmy Swaggart on his knees as he is crying and looking up to the heavens asking God for forgiveness because, "I have sinned, I have lusted in my heart..." But whether it is lust or passion as different or lust and passion as the same thing the point is who really debates this question at the lustful and passionate time of rapture where it really counts??
I want to know if you can cook?
I'm hungry What's for dinner?
And it had better not come out of a microwave.
That's it ladies.
If you can't cook, let me know now cuz I'm losing weight and inches here.
By the way, what's for breakfast?
If that is the case, why am I still single? I can make pierogies from scratch--starting with rolling out the dough. The microwave. . . isn't that used to melt butter or make popcorn? LMFAO
Eye_m_no_angel write: "The secret glue that keeps relationships alive is..."
You're asking a bunch of people on a singles' dating site this question? Most all of us are here because we've had relationships that ended in the past (the glue failed?) and you're asking US what works? Heck, if I knew the answer to that question I wouldn't be here.
As usual you get right to the meat of the matter bro!!
I like the part of lust being like object consumption... Almost like someone who can't stop eating twinkies or stop drinking when they have had enuf.. I also think that pure lust can be a destructive thing whereas Passion, even tho it may contain a smigen of lustful desire is constructive... Many speak love with their lips while hiding lust in the back of their minds..I read that somewhere - and like it... Lust & passion? Definately NOT the same..
no lust and passion aren't the same--yet when combined with love, truely desired in a LTR
the anticipation of not being able to wait to see the other--to touch the other--to play with each other