I still love my ex. He is a hard act to follow. We were true friends. Had more fun and laughs than most experience in a life time, and trusted each other heart and soul. Our families
got along, and our hobbies were simular, even though occaisionally enjoyed at different times. Our sex life was adventurous....we have been in the "mile high" club at least five times...and those were some of the least interesting, adventurous, fun times we had.... Don't get me wrong,
they WERE all fun! We had lots of friends, and I have to admit I have never been "light hearted" and consistantly happy since my divorce, like I was with Richard! Why did we divorce? I was lonely. My Ex did not like touch...
never did. He would sleep above the top sheet so there was an anti-snuggle barrier...or if I was cuddling in my sleep too much, he'd climb into a sleeping bag. I was lonely, didn't want to ever cheat, and so I hope a pending divorce would fix things...but he said OK to it, but only after he tried. Holding hands still "hurt", putting his arm around me was "uncomfortable", my
arm draped across his chest as we were laying prone weighed as much as "six bowling balls", and my head weighed "a ton". I was lonely.
I do miss the light heart...it nevers stays around...but I keep looking for a good match. someone who can be both my friend, lover, and IN LOVE with me. I would take Richard back if he was the same man. I have never stopped loving him. I pity him and his loss of himself, and the hobbies he enjoyed most, because he was fooled into marrying a repressive
w(b)itch who won't even let him spend time with his family. If he ever became single again, I'd be first in line....and his sister, brother-in-law and Mother all know to tell me. I miss them, and they miss me. YES! I would go back to my Ex!!! I even remember enjoying Saturday mornings, watching Shining Time Station...back when George Carlin was the Station Master...just laying together in bed...and we didn't even have kids... It was cozy and pleasant!
I think we can all agree that our ex's are our ex's for a reason. Unlike many people I know, I have never had a really bad break up with a woman I've had a long term relationship with. Things come up, people's idea of what they want their life to be can change, and so you go your seperate ways. I have a few ex's I'd love to be with again, one in particular. She wanted to get married and have children. At the time I had been divorced for a few years and had a baby boy. I did not want to start another family, so, as much as I loved this woman, I had to let her go after five years because I didn't want to be the source of resentment down the road for not giving her kids. We still talk all the time. She's married, two dogs and no kids. Our conversations nowadays are strictly on a platonic level, as I would never want to do anything to break up her marriage, and I'm sure she wouldn't either. I like to live my life with no regrets, and other than her, I don't really have any. If I had to do it over again, knowing what I know now, I would have gladly married her and had children with her. There are only so many people that come into our lives that we love in that way, and who love us back equally. Now she's gone, I'm single, and life goes on. So while it would seem like a logical conclusion that most of us would not go back to our ex's, there are certainly exceptions.
Rescue1 you made me laugh outloud while reading this. anyway, I wouldnt take my ex back now, its been ten yrs since I divorced him. I feel its always best to move on and cherish the old good memories ...make new positive ones...ok now, any single nice bikers our there between 45and 59 ? LOL
Met someone at Biketoberfest last year, had a great time there. Then he started calling me (he was in Kentucky, I am in Florida). January 1st he moved down here, lasted til Valentines Day, he went back to Kentucky. Really hurt at first, then he started calling me, he wanted to come back. So I decided to give him another chance, That was May, well 7/31 he headed back to Kentucky. Morale of this story, if it isn't good the first time it won't be any better the 2nd time.....:)
Have you ever overcooked a steak? Throwing it back on the grill for another round isn't going to fix it. I've become much more forgiving as I've aged, but there is a line and once it's crossed, there's no going back. Stick a fork in her... she's done.
Amuk1960 write: I would rather be striped naked, rubbed down with bacon and tossed into a cage full of rabid Badgers
Cmon now, you brought too many variables into that post to tell if it was fun you were talkin about or torture. Like, who's doin the bacon rubbin? Where are they rubbin it? And, for how long? Oh yeah, and do those badgers know how vicious I could get for just the right kind of bacon rubdown?
this is really one of those damned if you do damned if you don't situations. either you keep stepping and look back wondering if the choice was right or go back and get it emblazed in your memory why you left in the first place.
Roxie0215 write: I hope you all will bear with me as I type, because my heart is broken. If you read the forums and post regulary then you probally know I met someone from BK about 5 months ago. We fell hard and we fell fast. Yes, it was a long distance relationship, so some might say it was doomed from the start. He flew me to see him in July and we had a great time, we made plans for him to come and visit me next. Well, he was supposed to have arrived last night, instead I got that dreaded ph8ne call, the one that you can tell by the sound of his voice that it isn't gonna be pretty. Bottom line is, his exwife had started calling, seems the kids (her kids) are out of the house and now she's lonely and wants him back. He says he is still in love with her and chose her instead of pursuing me. OUCH!!! Needless to say, I cried but maintained my dignity, told him goodbye and cried myself to sleep. Today was pretty rough, but I'll be fine. I really thought I had found someone special (well, he found me)Just goes to show, you never can tell. Thanks everyone for listening, just had to get this off my chest and wanted some feedback.
There are others. If it was meant to be you would still be with him. Get over it. It was only 5 months. And, evidently you were just a rebound with him. I don't mean to be cruel but it is true.
as glib as i try to be i am a hopless romantic. i have a hard time acceptin love doesn't conquer all. in ealier years i wound up with a rule no seconds to protect against such obivous disappointment. now that i'm old (not really wiser) i have again broken my rule. the only positive i can see is that getting this badly burnt i'll steer clear of this one (then agin they call me DUMBASS for a reason) anyay at least if i manage to walk this time there won't be any looking back with what ifs