Noooo! My last ex continued to drink heavily on top of psych meds. Wayyy bad news. Wouldn't go back to any of the other ex's either. There's usually really good reasons why you part in the first place.
I also don't think that trying to recreate something from the past works. At least not for me. There has to be trust and most of that's gone when the relationship is over. I'm not even talking about the kind of lost trust with cheaters. My last ex wasn't a cheater, but he made my life so chaotic and unbalanced that I went into survival mode. It wasn't physically or emotionally safe with him. I need to be able to trust my partner with my life and entrust him with my love. I have to feel secure and comfortable about that or I'm done.
I'm a bit older than you specified in your profile, but as the newest member here (& my 1st entry at this site, I just wanted to offer my support (just trying to meet people here & empathy is probably a good way to start!).
I don't much like these kinds of suprises & have certainly had some most reciently. It hurts & the good news is that "it's only temporary". Peace to you Roxie -- CetanPeter
I planned to be with my former husband until death do us part. He was the one who wanted a divorce. He told me he still loves me and he divorced me so I could find someone else to spent the rest of my life with. He is a diabetic and it is taking his tole on him. We are best of friends and if I need help he is there for me. But, after he left me I love him but am not in love with him. I am sure he did me a favor. Up until last year I would have gone back with him. But, I would not go back to him today. He's a little bit too much into my business. He helped move me from the west coast to the east coast to get me away from my ex-fiancee. I don't need him judging each man I get interested in. Besides he's going to live in cold rainy WA state. Yuck! Giggle. I've moved on and hopefully there will be another long term relationship in my future! Zzoooom, -vetducgirl
This is my first posting so please bear with me. I would never go back with my x husband. Nor would I go back with my x boy friend. There are reason why things didn't work out in the first place there is no use to get back together to break up again
HI I'am sorry to here what happen but it happens. I'am not mr know it all or any thing of the kind. I believe most of the people should go read statictisc about relationalships and you will see they are only good for 6 years and women file for divorced about 75% of the time. My first guestion is Why did you divorce? Some states divorce rate is 83% so if you think you will find a soul mate based on statictics do not even go there. 85% of divorce today is because it is legal and no fault. You might better stay single and just date until you do not like the other person and dump them and move on. That is the way of the usa today and now be real to your self. X are X for a reason but did you fail some where along the way also. I know there is some people that do not see it that way but relationship are for only 6 years for the average person which could be the other person always. Please every one do not band me from here I'am just stating the facts and they are all on the enternet just see for your self.
I TOTALLY AGREE AN X IS AN X FOR A REASON AND SHOULD STAY IN THE PAST THERE ARE MANY PEOPLE OUT THERE THAT KNOW HOW TO TREAT PEOPLE PROPER AND WITHOUT THE HASSLE WE CAN ALL MISS THE THINGS THAT ONCE WERE BUT THINK OF THE FUTURE AND WHAT WE CAN HAVE THE NEXT PERSON MIGHT JUST BE THE SOUL MATE YOU HAVE BEEN SEARCHING ALL YOUR LIFE FOR WELL THATS WHAT I TELL MYSELF IT DOESNT STOP ME MISSING THE CUDDLES AND HUGS AT NIGHT BUT HEY THATS WHAT TEDDIES ARE FOR LOL