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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Sep 03, 2005 13:06

"The secret glue that keeps relationships alive is..."

No matter how h o t and steamy a relationship is at first when the passion fades there better be something else to take its place.

Most of us fall in lust before we fall in love. It's a wonderfully exciting time when you need nothing more than passion to keep you glued together. Unfortunately, the reality is, lust alone doesn't make for long-lasting bonds; it disintegrates far too fast and easily.

The sort of glue that keeps relationships strong forever is made of more powerful stuff. It's made of mutual respect, interests in common, shared values and genuine friendship.

In fact, this glue is so effective, it's been known to keep the passion strong inside the relationship, even when the lust has gone!

-Meditations for Women



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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Jan 15, 2012 20:31

Communication and trust. If you don't have it, you don't have nothing



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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Dec 13, 2009 15:28

RESPECT AND KNOWING HOW TO MAKE THE OTHER FEEL IMPORTANT



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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Oct 16, 2005 17:51

Good question! Something tells me you know but we've forgotten (or haven't had it in a longtime:) I think it was something we used to be able to experience when intimately with another person of value. Great books, peotry and songs used to be written about it. But now its cheaper,faster, and more productive to crank out base emotion and body flailing. What is flailing you ask? Oh no what is rapture you asked. It is ecstacy. And ecstasy is now considered a drug:)



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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Oct 16, 2005 16:20


softail1999 write:

seeme1st write:

softail1999 write:
Well. I know it cant be sex..!!!!
Been there done that....LOL

Too bad tooo.. Dang!



although it is a big part of it with the right partner!!!!!!

Soo true!!.. Too bad I spent soo much of it on the wrong one then??? Could be practicing up for the Right one?? HAha!!!



that i di understand completely



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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Oct 16, 2005 14:04


seeme1st write:

softail1999 write:
Well. I know it cant be sex..!!!!
Been there done that....LOL

Too bad tooo.. Dang!



although it is a big part of it with the right partner!!!!!!

Soo true!!.. Too bad I spent soo much of it on the wrong one then??? Could be practicing up for the Right one?? HAha!!!

  


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Veröffentlicht am Sun, Oct 16, 2005 08:03

whats rapture????
Talkin' alot?

  


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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Oct 15, 2005 20:27


softail1999 write:
Well. I know it cant be sex..!!!!
Been there done that....LOL

Too bad tooo.. Dang!



although it is a big part of it with the right partner!!!!!!



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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Oct 15, 2005 17:07


Comfy1 write:
Comfy1 ponders this as she selects her evening attire....

Proper evening attire is required for expected outcome of your evening... Whether be alone or not... hehehehe

  


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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Oct 15, 2005 16:01

Comfy1 ponders this as she selects her evening attire....

  


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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Oct 15, 2005 15:01


Comfy1 write:


isn[t it!!!!!!!!!!!!
now where is it--i want some now!!!!!

hahahahahhahahahaha



All in Gods time......
Not ours......
Dang!!!!
I really wanted to play today!!!!
Guess I'll have to settle for party tonight......

Party??? Well will take your mind off of it... Better than nothin.. Or is it? lmao....

  


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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Oct 15, 2005 14:33



isn[t it!!!!!!!!!!!!
now where is it--i want some now!!!!!

hahahahahhahahahaha



All in Gods time......
Not ours......
Dang!!!!
I really wanted to play today!!!!
Guess I'll have to settle for party tonight......



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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Oct 15, 2005 13:07

Well. I know it cant be sex..!!!!
Been there done that....LOL

Too bad tooo.. Dang!

  


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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Oct 15, 2005 10:00


bikeman542a write:

Eye_m_no_angel write:
"The secret glue that keeps relationships alive is..."

You're asking a bunch of people on a singles' dating site this question? Most all of us are here because we've had relationships that ended in the past (the glue failed?) and you're asking US what works? Heck, if I knew the answer to that question I wouldn't be here.


As usual you get right to the meat of the matter bro!!

God knows I don't know a dam thing about it!!!



yup



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Veröffentlicht am Sat, Oct 15, 2005 07:15

The "trinity" that I was speaking of, "I, me, myself" is what I consider to be the over-inflated ego which many times ruins or destroys all kinds of relationships. A romantic relationship is by no means being excluded from that. If you mean two people as one (and you may not mean that at all) I can't subscribe to that. To me two people are just that, two people who come together with sometimes very different pasts where there is a blending that takes place with sometimes work, understanding and patience, but no "universal oneness" of souls intertwining. Someone once told me to value, accept and honor my partners past. Not try to change, ignore or dishonor it. The Lust vs Passion may be a case of, "You say potato and I say potatto". I decided to look the two words up (too much time on my hands:). My dictionary says, "Passion; any kind of feeling or emotion as anger, love, desire, etc., a compelling force, strong amorous feeling or desire, an instance or experience of it, example: passionate outburst, passionate tears, passionate anger, etc. Lust: overmastering desire, sensual desire, strong pleasure or delight, to feel an intense desire.
My guess is that most people are more comfortable with the word "passion" because it sounds more romantic and as if it comes from the heart. And of course we all also have that lovely vision of ole Jimmy Swaggart on his knees as he is crying and looking up to the heavens asking God for forgiveness because, "I have sinned, I have lusted in my heart..." But whether it is lust or passion as different or lust and passion as the same thing the point is who really debates this question at the lustful and passionate time of rapture where it really counts??



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Veröffentlicht am Fri, Oct 14, 2005 09:01


SuspendedLostBoys write:

FOOD!
I want to know if you can cook?
I'm hungry What's for dinner?
And it had better not come out of a microwave.
That's it ladies.
FOOD!
If you can't cook, let me know now cuz I'm losing weight and inches here.
By the way, what's for breakfast?

SLB




If that is the case, why am I still single? I can make pierogies from scratch--starting with rolling out the dough. The microwave. . . isn't that used to melt butter or make popcorn? LMFAO

  


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Veröffentlicht am Thu, Oct 13, 2005 21:22


Eye_m_no_angel write:
"The secret glue that keeps relationships alive is..."

You're asking a bunch of people on a singles' dating site this question? Most all of us are here because we've had relationships that ended in the past (the glue failed?) and you're asking US what works? Heck, if I knew the answer to that question I wouldn't be here.


As usual you get right to the meat of the matter bro!!

God knows I don't know a dam thing about it!!!



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Veröffentlicht am Thu, Oct 13, 2005 07:16


Comfy1 write:
Yes...
And THAT is a good thang!



isn[t it!!!!!!!!!!!!
now where is it--i want some now!!!!!

hahahahahhahahahaha



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Veröffentlicht am Thu, Oct 13, 2005 07:07

Yes...
And THAT is a good thang!

  


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Veröffentlicht am Thu, Oct 13, 2005 06:56


Comfy1 write:

SpringerSoul write:

lilystarr write:
Lust should not ever have to leave a relationship if the people involved have a love and respect for each other. Lust and passion are one in the same. There is no delineation of the two words. If the lust felt is strictly ?for the moment? then it will take its course. I think the secret to love, passion, and happiness is getting out of the trinity of ?self?, ?me? and ?I? and getting into ?we? .

Maybe it isn't getting out of the trinity but experiencing the trinity as ONE.
I do not think lust and passion are the same.
Lust is like a hunger and some hungers are never satiated while others are. Lust also in my opnion is strictly about object consumption.
Now lust can be a balancing force in a relationship in the pendulum of give and take but Passion is like Gravity.
Regardless of the two bodies interaction it is a desire to orbit, to circle, to delight, to cherish, to worship to adore if it is felt by both then the orbit is circular and strong.
The pendelum of lust and love whose mass is...

needs more thought...hope they don't post before I edit..



I like the part of lust being like object consumption...
Almost like someone who can't stop eating twinkies or stop drinking when they have had enuf..
I also think that pure lust can be a destructive thing whereas Passion, even tho it may contain a smigen of lustful desire is constructive...
Many speak love with their lips while hiding lust in the back of their minds..I read that somewhere - and like it...
Lust & passion?
Definately NOT the same..



no lust and passion aren't the same--yet when combined with love, truely desired in a LTR

the anticipation of not being able to wait to see the other--to touch the other--to play with each other



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